I am running out of stuff to blog about. I took pages and pages of journal entries written over the last year and added the most interesting stuff here. I threw away soooooo much stuff. I can’t believe how boring and trivial most of my journal entries were. This incidentally, makes me a little nervous about writing this blog in real time. By giving my writing a gestation period so to speak, I was able to go back with a non bias view and only pick out the interesting stuff.
At any rate, I am happy to inform that there are only a few more stories that I have specifically in my journal that I want to post here so most of the stuff that I will be writing about now will be personal thoughts and past recent experiences; for example… my date last night!
So as much as I would never ever EVER use Craig’s List to find “The One” (not that I have even convinced myself yet that I am looking or that I even believe he exists) the interaction that I have with the people that I meet from Craig’s List fascinates me!
Every ad is an experiment in human interaction!
These are some of the questions that go through my mind when I am thinking about posting ads. It’s all very scientific!
(I even have an excel spread sheet set up but admittedly, it’s a pain and I stopped updating it after the first 3 ads.)
What gets peoples attention?
Does posting a pic really matter?
Does providing a list of wants, likes and dislikes help narrow down the types of responses an ad gets? What are the men looking for and what do they like?
Does posting that I am BBW make a difference?
What about a heart felt summary about what I am looking for?
What if all I do is post a pic?
That last question above is actually the question that I was thinking about when I posted my most recent ad.
Keeping in mind that every ad I post I try and at least meet 1 person from the 100 or so responses I get… The most recent ad that I posted simply said, “Just me…” with this pic:
I cannot believe how many responses that I got. There were at least 50 within 24 hours. Of course, only 3 of the responses actually replied with pictures. What that means is that if I am going to meet somebody from these responses, I would actually have to respond to any that seem decent thus revealing my email address which I only like to do if I am actually interested, after I have seen a pic. Alas… I set up the rules for this one so… first thing first, cross reference emails and names with myspace. This helps a little… Surprisingly this time, I only got 1 or 2 responses from people insinuating that they just want sex! One guy said this:
“any interest in a 420 friendly, well hung, std free male who loves bigger women and loves giving oral?”
Seriously, what girl in her right mind would actually respond to this guy? (If you are in your right mind and you actually want to
respond to this guy let me know, I will pass his email on to you...) Incidentally, his email handle was crazyforcraigslist… So you think that "hooking up" off the internet may be a pattern for him? Dare I say... an obsession? OK maybe it's an obsession for me but did I mention how fascinating people are?
So... the guy that I chose to meet sent me this:
“u look great and i would love to chat, i'm a single 23/m in north portland and i would love to chat with u”
I was able to cross-reference this guy's email with his myspace account. He is young, only 23... but cute.
t was actually kind of hard to tell exactly from his pics but I didn't get any "dangerous" vibe from him so I sent
him an email saying hello.
Yesterday the event that I was hosting was beat the heat by playing in a fountain downtown.
There were just a few people signed up and it's a super public place. I figured after a few emails and finding
out that he works close by it would be fun to have him meet me at the fountain to swim. He agreed and said
that he would call me when he got off work. It was a full fledge safety date! (See past posts for more info on safety dates...)
He ended up calling after I got home from swimming; he apparently had to work a bit late. No big deal, as I said, I
didn't get any dangerous vibe from him so I invited him over for a movie. I was soooooo embarrassed when he showed up.
He looked so much younger in person that I actually checked his ID.
(At 31 there is no way I am going to hang out alone in my apartment with somebody under 18!
That's just asking for trouble, even if it is just a movie!)
So I learned something very important about myself last night! I no longer find younger guys attractive.
He was dressed like he was in high school. Everything about him looked like a little boy.
Even the way he came on to me came across like high school and not in a good way. He told me he thought I was a hottie.
(Although I can't say I disagree, I felt 10 years older than him, ok... 8 years older...) We were sitting in the big armchairs
I have in my apartment and he kept touching me with his pinkie asking me what's up. He tried getting on his knees in front
of me to compare how much bigger his hands were than mine (mine were bigger, hehe) I told him to go sit back down.
Even my inability to read body language can read when somebody is totally not interested! Why would he even stay,
I am sure there was some excuse he could have come up with to take off. He had to realize that nothing was going to happen!
Gawd! OK so he didn't realize, not even kind of!!! As soon as the movie was over
(Y tu mama tambien - in Spanish with English subtitles and everything) I pretty much herded him out saying that I was tired
and had to get up early in the morning. He was doing the hesitating leaning in thing that yeah... I remember from High School...
so I played the offensive move, gave him a hug and opened the front door, told him how to call the elevator then sent him
on his way!
I got a message from him this morning on my myspace. He told me how much he liked me and that he hoped he could see
me again... How can you like somebody soooooo much from just meeting them once and barely talking to them?)
I wrote him and told him that I thought he was just too young for me.
Apparently, I am growing up! :0) My friend Janie is soooo proud! hehe
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that guy must have been ugly as shit
LOL! He wasn’t that bad. He had a cute face but bad posture. The kind that low self esteem causes. Kinda slouched over… and too much beer! There was no muscle definition at all. Like he had never done anything athletic, ever.