A Liberating Philosophy on Sex, Love and Relationships!
Surprisingly… this level of awareness (or possibly denial) is liberating!
The dynamics of 2 people interacting is a strange, complicated and beautiful thing.
I friend described a concept to me the other day. He had me take my forefinger and thumb and press them together. The idea that touch is just a concept means that when your fingers are touching, what you are actually feeling is not your fingers touching but the force of your energy repelling itself away from each other. It’s all energy! We are all energy!!! How else could you explain the prickly tingly feeling you get when a lover accidentally grazes your arm? The rush when they touch your hair… The warmth from an embrace… The butterflies from a first kiss… The catch deep down in your naughtiest places when they whisper, “I want you” in your ear…
All of these sensations; every single one of them are what drives my very existence! They are what encourage me to pursue relationships with people. I live for passion. Ecstasy from pleasing the senses is most important. Sights, sounds, smells, tastes, touch…
People nowadays are so wrapped up in the logic of relationships. What they think a relationship should be, defining feelings, assuming everything, taking everything for granted! Playing games!!! Hoping it lasts forever with one person or one person so convinced that it won’t last forever, or one person convinced that they don’t want forever… the moments that should be lived for are always lost! The potential for that amazing electric connection gets blocked. One of my biggest pet peeves with men is that they are so convinced that a girl is going to cling to them when all they want is sex, they entirely miss the point that an HONEST but emotional connection will give them the best sex they have ever had. That emotion does not have to come from a committed relationship. What makes the sex bad is not letting go, or trying to define what you don’t want! Let go and enjoy the moment. Incidentally this is why most people have their fondest memories of some passionate romantic fling on some vacation in a far away place. This type of relationship begins knowing that there is an end! There is no defining it, no expectations; just freedom to live in the moment! This is how all relationships should be! No expectations just honesty and passion!
A friend told me today that he was hesitant to get physically involved with me (or any woman right now I would imagine) because he was afraid I might fall in love. He is just getting out of a relationship… So what!!! So what if I fall in love? Why do men think that having somebody love you is so bad? Love isn’t what makes women crazy. Uncertainty is what makes women crazy! A lack of honesty and deception is what drives up to strangely enough cling tighter. Which is exactly what the guy usually doesn’t want.
Relationship is such an abused misunderstood word. I don’t need to hear that you are not looking for a relationship because guess what. Guess what! By talking to me, you have just entered into a relationship with me because 2 people interacting with each other is a relationship. What type of relationship that is… well that’s an entirely different issue!
So how do I view relationships? Relationships are a part of life. People come and go. There is birth, life and death. All relationships have these stages, some just last longer than others. There are ups and downs in each and every one. You live for the experiences and when the experiences no longer bring happiness, you end them and seek new ones. Heartbreak and rejection are a part of life and don’t have to be bad things. They make you stronger… they teach you! Not everybody is going to have energy with everybody. If somebody rejects you today, somebody tomorrow may not.
So here is what I am telling you! If you don’t want me tell me now, if you don’t feel the energy I feel that’s ok, I will seek passion somewhere else and will never feel resentment. If you feel a connection with me then great, lets go with it! Embrace the moment! If you’re honest and opened with each other we can set boundaries with mutual respect for each other. There are so many reasons why we could or shouldn’t be together. I know what makes me happy and I am willing to ask for it. If you can’t provide it, so be it. If I want to settle for what you can provide, that’s my choice. I believe you should give as much as you are willing and never take or expect more than is offered!
If I fall in love it will be amazing! When it ends I will be sad! I’ll cry, I’ll masturbate and in 3 days… I will start to the cycle all over again by taking interest in somebody new!!!
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This conveys, your are a practical and open minded. I agree with you.
The problem with falling in love is that you never fall in love with the person, only what that person represents. Because we are constantly shifting, changing, evolving, moving, we can never truly know anyone or anything. Only the idea is within our grasp. Too often I have seen people give up everything for an idea, only to realize it isn’t even what they wanted in the first place.
It would be so much easier if we could just lose these useless sacks of flesh and blood and see one another for what we really are.
I totally agree! Thats one of the reasons why I believe that you shouldn’t be so wrapped up in the idea of forever! The enegry shifts and changes. People, situations, feelings… it all changes. When the enegery is no longer conected, the relationship should end. It’s as simple as that!
I actually have a slightly different, but incredibly similiar view… What we often fall in love with is simply a piece of ourselves. And (similiarly) that changes and evolves. But the more of ourselves we learn to love, the more we have the ability to love in others. Admiration, intrigue and respect grow from different qualities that we may enjoy in another person. It’s the unique and amazing quaities of ourselves that we see reflected in others is what we are really truly falling in love with.
So… what do you share with others that they will fall in love with? What do you chose to expose to the world? What are you loving and seeing in others right now?…
It’s not a game, but simply a dance! No one said its not complicated, amazing and interesting though!
Thanks for sharing the blog! -C
I think that what others fall in love with in me is my touch. It’s very comforting to have somebody stoke your arm, face, back, leg… I have learned over the years that given the right opportunity to touch and caress somebody in an intimate way brings a closeness that usually drops any walls or reservations about relationships. It’s a very simple act of kindness and affection that most people enjoy.
Of course… my home made spaghetti sauce never hurts!
I wear my heart on my sleeve. I hide nothing. Everything about me is freely exposed to whoever wants to take the time to look!
Right now what I have found most attractive in others is the ability to socialize. The ability to take turns in a conversation to listen equally as well as share an interesting story. Compassion and a general interest in other people, humor, open mindedness, interest in art and travel…
Falling in Love is one of life’s greatest moments! so never fear of it when it comes, but with everything in this world something this great can and will do have something negative to come along!
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I may have no PHD degrees but i am a real man and i offer in your face real life tips.
From the way you write I can tell how wise and life savvy you are, goodluck as always and continue blogging you got a reader out of me! thumbs up
“A friend told me today that he was hesitant to get physically involved with me (or any woman right now I would imagine) because he was afraid I might fall in love.”
That is such a guy, bs line. They say the stupidest crap. Don’t let a guy EVER say that to your face without laughing. That puts them in line! Ahaha! Great read.
hi, i just started my own blog on the misadventures of being a single parent. one of the topics i will soon write about will be about relationships, dating, falling in love and all that goes with it. if you dont mind, can i link your blog to mine? my url, is http://www.onegreatmiss.blogspot.com
i have also included my email in case you have need of it.
thank you. and pardon the intrusion.
from one great miss to another